“Forgive, sounds good / Forgive, I’m not sure I could / They
say time heals everything / But I’m still waiting”
The other day I was in the car and the song Not Ready to Make Nice by the Dixie
Chicks came on. The opening of the song really struck me. The song talks about
an individual not being ready to forgive someone. I know we can all relate to
that feeling when someone has really hurt us and we feel pain and sadness. In
fact, you are probably thinking of one of those situations as you are reading
this. Everyone has their own way of dealing with these feelings.
In my experience people will tell you to just get over it, to get over it as soon as possible. I think it is important to move on;
however, it is critical that you allow yourself to feel your emotions. Many
people move on to quickly and do not allow themselves to feel. A relationship
may have ended, someone might have made a comment about you, someone close to
you may have passed due to illness, etc. All situations that cause you to feel
pain or sadness are valid. Allow yourself to feel all the emotions that come
with these situations. You feel pain and sadness because you care, there is
nothing wrong with human emotions.
Time does not heal our wounds; there is no time limit to our
healing process. People will often try and hurry your healing process by
telling you what they think you should do. People will encourage you to move on
and shove your feelings down. When we try and hide our feeling we start to
become numb to our feelings on a daily basis. By allowing ourselves to feel our
emotions when we are at our lowest we are able to formulate how we feel on a
daily basis. By truly embracing your emotions you are more in tuned with how
you feel on a daily basis and able to deal with those feelings more
effectively. Because if we do not deal with our feelings effectively we will
have to deal with them when our bottled up emotions finally over flow.
How do you deal with your emotions? Do you tend to need more
time to fully grasp your feelings and emotions? Is it difficult for you to let go of these emotions?
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