“Every time you do something that is not who you are, you are giving away pieces of yourself. You are trying to buy someone’s love by paying with little pieces of yourself. You keep trying to pay for someone else’s love with yourself. You cannot ever pay enough to make yourself worth someone’s love.” – Rachel Hollis
We all want to make the people in our life proud of us. There is nothing wrong with wanting them to be proud of you and who you are becoming. Your parents, friends, family, etc. care a lot about you and it is okay to want them to be proud of you but sometimes we tend to take it way too far. We tend to want people to be proud of us so badly that we lose ourselves.
I was listening to Rachel Hollis speak the other day, she is one of the best speakers that I have ever heard. Something she said made me think about what happens when we try to live our life to make someone else happy. Rachel said the above quote and I have never heard someone describe trying to please someone else like this before.
Like I said we all want the people who mean the most to us to be proud of us. Sometimes we take this too far and we start to do things to make other people happy instead of ourselves. Each time we start to put other people’s happiness above our own we give away a piece of our self. Think of it like a jigsaw puzzle, you need every piece in order to complete the picture. You need every piece of yourself in order to make an entire picture of you. Each time you put another person’s happiness above your own you give away a piece of your puzzle. If this behavior continues eventually you will not ever have a clear picture of who you are.
To a certain extent I think we all know that when we give up pieces of ourselves it is easy to lose yourself. At the end of the day, when you put other people above yourself you are trying to pay for someone else’s love with pieces of yourself. And like Rachel said, “You cannot ever pay enough to make yourself worth someone’s love.” The people who love you will not want you to change. You cannot pay or change enough to be “worth” someone’s love. You are worthy, loved and enough as you are.
Do you give away pieces of yourself? Do you give away major pieces of yourself? What can you do to stop giving away pieces of yourself?
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